Why blame God, when life throws lemons?
It was just another day when I was browsing the news feed and saw the life event of a close friend Saanchi. "Became an atheist."
Being a crazy person who experiences these kind of mood swings myself, I didn't judge her for this completely stupid thing she had posted.Instead, I was just concerned and pinged her.
"Just saw your new status. Are you okay?"The answer was expected."No. I'm not."
"Why?" I further questioned.
"God has done injustice to me. I don't believe in Him anymore."
"But what has He done?"
"The problems are endless. He made me fail my exams. My best friend left me. My mom and dad separated. The person I loved left me for someone else."
I remembered she had told me about her parents frequent fights few days ago.She was facing tough times, that was understood, but I couldn't understand why do we blame God for every single thing that happens to us? The same day, I went to her house. Her mom opened the door and welcomed me, smiling.
Reaching Saanchi's room, I saw her cuddled in the corner of the room, reading . She looked pale and ill. Of course she was surprised to see me. She gave me details about everything that had happened. I could see she was punishing herself thinking it was God who ruined her fairytale life. Lecturing a sad person wasn't the right thing to do, So, I calmly asked.
"Is there anything I can help you in?"
She replied. "Everything will be fine now. He can't ruin me now. I no more believe in Him."
I somehow lost my cool. The argumentative side of mine soared. "Woah. Do you really think the Deity who has to look after the entire Cosmos has got free time to ruin you?"My sentence was a drooping with sarcasm.
She glared at me. "Then how did all this happen? And why? I thought God knows everything. How can he let this happen to me?"
"What did God do? Are you serious? You are actually putting all the blames on someone because of whom you are living. "
"Then I wish I was dead." I wished I could bang her head.
"Okay forget it. Tell me how has God got anything to do with all this?"
"My mom and dad separated. Why? He could have stopped it from happening."
I felt sorry for her. But it was important to get her out of this. I began, "Are your parents happy?"
Her reply was surprising. "Mom has started teaching. She had never been this happy. Dad is abroad. He is extending his business."
"They are happy because of this separation. Aren't they? Wasn't it for the greater good?"
She replied after a long pause. "It has been tough on me."
I could feel that her pain was too much.
"You are living with your mother. You are free to visit your father. They are both happy now. Can't you be happy for them?"
She said,"I had never thought it this way. Maybe God did this for the greater good." The angry expressions left her beautiful face.
I smiled. A tiny percentage of faith on the Almighty had been restored. "What else has God done?"
"I failed in my semester exams. I had prayed to Him to make me pass. But He didn't .How fair is that?"
"Had you really prepared well?"
"No I hadn't. The separation process was going on and I couldn't concentrate."
"God can't write for you. God can't change your paper. It was a bad phase. You couldn't concentrate, and failed. It is not your fault. It's not God's either. Study well and you will pass. It's your hard work that will count.
"I think you're right. But what about Khushi? She was my best friend. How could she leave me?"
"Were you both in good terms?" I asked.
"Of course. But she was behaving weird lately. And suddenly she just has another best friend. I was supposed to be her only best friend."
"Did you ask her when she behaving weird?"
"No, I didn't. I was unable to talk to her from the past few weeks. I was having a bad time."
"You were having a bad time. Maybe she was having one too. Maybe she needed you and you weren't there. So she took shelter in somebody else's shade. And having two best friends hasn't been declared a crime yet."
"She should have understood I was having a bad phase." Saanchi was angry again.
In an as-a-matter-of-fact tone, I said. "She didn't. And even you didn't. She found someone who did. It's simple. Where is God in this?"
I felt I was successful in changing her view. I continued, "and before you ask me about Rahul, just once ask yourself, did you ask God before falling for him?
Did God ever indicate he was the right person? and don't judge me for being impractical, if you really think he meant the world to you, why can't you be happy for him?
I know it will be tough, but it will make your life easier and you will see new prospects in life for which I'm sure you will never thank God. "
She was baffled by now. Partly because of what I said, partly because of the way she was seeing things now.
"If we have to bear everything alone, then why does God exist?"
"To make us strong enough to face this world. The trials he puts in front of us, the struggle and situations he puts us in, are to make us braver and stronger."
"Why? Why not give everyone a peaceful life and leave them?"
"Maybe because life's not supposed to be a piece of cake. If there are no struggles, problems, competition, complications, how and why we will ever move forward?"
"I agree."
I ceased my lecture. She had understood my point.
There was a silence, after which she asked, "how can I be happy in such a phase? I sulk all the time."
"Acceptance is the only key to your question. Accept things the way they are with open heart. Remember that God has bigger plans for you than you have for yourself. Maybe then, you will come out of this self pity mode."As I was speaking , I noticed she was engrossed in her cell phone. "I'm saying something and you aren't listening." I said, crossly.
"I was deleting my life event. I guess I'm not an atheist anymore."
I smiled. I had restored her believe In God.
I wondered how many people went through the same thing every day. How easily we blamed God for everything that happened to us. We had adopted sheer escapism for all our problems. Blaming God was the short cut route to our short lived satisfaction. We never think of problems as step to move forward. Instead, we start blaming God. The architect of our Destiny. The one who has better plans for us.
Last but not the least, bad phases are a part of life. Some issues occur because of us, and in some we have no say, yet we should remember, that, when life throws lemons, we should make lemonade and keen from the experience because God is there to save us. Life's not complicated. It becomes complicated when we make it complicated. If we search within ourselves,we will find answers to all our questions and solutions to all our problems. It's all about making an effort.
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